There are many years thereafter to make up for any gaps in this process. Speaking as a parent of young children, the kid is going to do better long term if the parent is socially permitted to allow a baby to cry sometimes- because feeling like you must answer the cry at the drop of a hat every single time lest ruin your child for life, is how people snap. Sometimes you just need to lay on the floor & cry yourself for a few minutes.
> ... permitted to allow a baby to cry sometimes...
Nothing I said contradicts this - as long as you have a bond with your child.
If all you want to do is lay on the ground yourself and cry and you aren't meeting the child's needs, that is neglect and it is trauma and it does affect the child.
